When you’re dating, everything you do is subject to inspection. It’s not enough to just show up, pay for dinner, and drive her home. You also have to think about what to wear, what to talk about ... it can be exhausting. You’re not just trying to show that you’ll be a great lover or a loyal boyfriend – in many cases, you’re being judged on whether you’ll be a good husband and father somewhere down the line.
The husband part isn’t so tough – she’ll want you to be trustworthy, kind, strong and a good provider. But how do you show someone that you’d be a good father for her children? According to experts, there are a number of things you can do to indicate that you’d be a terrific dad:
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Show that you’re giving. Being a parent is about endlessly meeting your child’s needs, and if you appear to be selfish then you’ll be out of the running for fatherhood. If you coach a kids’ sports team, let her know about that. Casually mention that you recently babysat your sister’s kids for the weekend. Bring the woman you love into your life and introduce her to your family and friends, so she can see how much give and take there is between you – the more you do for others without complaining, the better your chances of being a caring, giving dad.
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Have a good relationship with the women in your family. There’s another reason to bring the future Mrs. You to see your family – women look to your relationship with your mother and, to a lesser degree, your sisters to gauge how you’ll treat a wife and children. A man who genuinely likes his mother, who listens to what she has to say and helps her out occasionally is a man who had a good upbringing, and will bring those values to his own parenting.
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Have a strong stomach. The first time you say, “Oh my lord, I could never touch a poopy diaper!” is the last time you’ll be considered father material. Having children means you’re going to be spilled on, spit up on and, yes, you’ll have to touch those toxic disposable diapers now and then. If you can care for your girlfriend when she’s sick – including scooping up used tissues and holding her hair back when she yaks into the toilet – you make some serious future-father points.
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Enjoy children. This seems so obvious as to be stupid, but you might be surprised at how many men assume they’ll someday be dads but don’t actually like to spend time with kids. If you can get joy from watching a small boy eat a very large ice cream while at your local amusement park, or can play Army men with your nephews for hours on end, this will show her that you’re ready to have children of your own. But if you never even look at other children when the two of you are out together, or you turn up your nose at a child who’s being a bit noisy when you’re getting your afternoon coffee at Starbucks, she’ll notice – and you’ll get a black mark in the “possible father” column.
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Be flexible, and take direction well. If you live and die by your schedule, if you think that marriage and family shouldn’t keep you from skiing every winter, and if you can’t stand to have anyone else tell you what to do, you probably won’t be a very good dad. As a husband and father you’ll have to shift your priorities and occasionally take direction from your wife – and children can’t be raised in a strict schedule. But if you can handle being told what to do once in awhile, and learn to live with the fact that a child is going to sick on the very day that you’re ready to leave on that camping trip you’ve planned for months, you have potential as a dad.
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Be encouraging. A big part of being a great parent is cheering on your child’s successes and keeping their spirits up when they fail. If you’re the type of guy who attacks every problem with “Well, here’s what you did wrong ...” your girlfriend will start to wonder just how good you’ll be at guiding a child’s development. Start practicing your “kiss the boo-boo” skills now, with her, and celebrate her accomplishments. Prove that you’re a man whose children will come to him with both skinned knees and hurt egos.
Think about the qualities that make a good father – strength, reliability, a great sense of humor and a willingness to put your own needs after those of your family. Then be that man. If you can do that, she’ll see you as perfect father material – and she’ll be right.
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